I don't think I'd ever heard of PostSecret before, or if I did, I didn't pay much attention to it. But watching Warren's TED Talk was very powerful. The last post card he shares is one in which someone wrote:
When people I love leave voicemails in my phone I always save them in case they die tomorrow and I have no other way of hearing their voice ever againThis brought back a memory of mine from many years ago. It's faded, but still intact (arguably so).
When we learned to read, my brothers and I often read - among other books - Frog and Toad. I remember how hard it was to struggle through each word when Mom and Dad could do it so fluidly and with such ease. I don't know if that made me want to work harder so I could get there or if it made me more frustrated that I wasn't there already.
Some time not long after Matt died, we (or I?) found a cassette tape on which he had recorded himself reading Frog and Toad aloud. My memory tells me that I sat there listening quietly in awe of this little piece of plastic and roll of magnetic tape. It had only been - what, maybe a few months or a year? - since Matt died, and that I could hear his voice again was indescribable even though it was the awkward word-by-word reading and occasional sounding-out of syllables in a children's book.
Memories are a funny thing. As Radioab discussed, every time you revive a memory, your brain writes it back, quite possibly altering it in some way. Details aren't stored exactly; the major points are saved, and when you retrieve it, your brain re-interprets, re-fabricates the details. This memory of hearing Matt's voice again is almost certainly not very accurate.
Besides, I don't remember his voice. I just remember that I heard it.